Saturday, November 7, 2009

liFE biRtH bLoOd DooM

"what is life, except excuse for death... n death is nothing but an escape from life"

some quote i found online... d circle f life n death... well known topic.. nothin new u guys gona find in dis post..

random n irrelevent connction between sm lines u myt feel.. but kept dis in drafts 4 long ... certain hapnin in d past got me started writin dis post.. so wot evr gets 2d brain.... , am jotin it dwn... all need not b related well .. jst d idea of life n death mite revolve thruout.. so hv fun

reading dis post u mite jst feel sad n go back in tym not like d feeling... but dats not my intention here.. tho i knw its no gud writin dis post .. i personally dont like readin such works wich r talkin abt reality n philosophical stuff.. rathr wud njoy readin smthing dat can mk me smile n get me laffing.. only felt like postin here .. so got down doin dis... now d concept f evrything dat starts gota end... all is perishable, nothin remains 4vr. how many tyms v hear dis n get across such fundas in life.. but still dnt want any such thing 2 hapn wid us.. v loose wots close 2 us .. smthin or sm1 v cant think f life widout.. but d fact is v still continue 2 live ... our tym is still not ovr.. n hence v gota go on till d tym is up 4 us...

d concept of attachment detachment is funny 4 me, smhw feel dat v human being as per our convnience get attachd n detachd as n wen requird... myt not b d case wid all , but most f us n dat % f ppl including me i feel ,r nothin but polishd hypocrites ... hw does hypocrcy works here,, i dunno.. probably foolin our own selves f how detachd v r .. while d truth mayb d othr way round... i personally am kind f a person who wont b affected much or b moved by news of death n all.. smhw it seems 2me dat evntually its gona hapn.. i dunno how 2 react if sm1 says der so n so died.. i dnt understnd y ppl say sorry wen dey hear f such news?? ok u feel sory 4d persons lose, but den again u dint do no nothin n der ws nothin u cud have had done 2 stop it.. y r v sory den??is dis has now become a standard way of behaving wen smthin like dat hapns... i 2 wud jst say d same thing probably cos v realy dnt knw wot 2 say... do v say 'dats sad'.. yes it is.. is der a point askin 'r u ok'.. no u fool defintly d person is not ok... n worse still evry 3rd person walkin in ask d same ques of 'how n wen ' it hapnd

d person is alrdy messed up in der grief n u wana knw how it all hapnd? y is dat?? guess wot else do v ask den.. so standard set things ppl say n do at such situations n dats how it all goes...

now ppl wont eat, as in wen sm1 expires arnd dem.... dey wont feel like goin ne whr aftr getin 2knw such news... dey instantly get sad n feel its all over ... n dis is not dat sm near n dear 2 dem died.. but any1 dey knew 4m smwhr... dats bein sensitv 2d news n behaving like a human being i guess... but dis is wot gets me wondering... mayb smthin wrong wid me?? am i 2 insensitve 2wards ppl n life ?? cos if i get 2 hear such news .. i tend 2 b in d same frame f mind dat i ws proir 2 it.. i wnt stop eatin.. or stop wot i ws goin 2do d next moment...well dats me....

dey say as v grow up, v ourselves start understndin wots hapnin arnd.. v become more n more sensitv 2 such tyms.... but dunno wots wrong wid me.. i hear news of sm1 passing away n am unmoved... b it sm1 i barely knew.. or sm1 i knew well.. or sm1 i dint know at all.. its d same reaction 4 me... 'OK' .. does dat means am 2 insensitv 2b a human bein ?? i hope not... does dat means losing ne1 close 2me wont affct me eithr.. i feel not... cos d idea f losing sm1 who mttrs 2me,, mks me jittery.. knowin its all gona end n death is d final destination of life.. wich v all will 1 day or d othr reach,, but d only way i feel i can cope up wid losing my dear 1s is dat i die b4 dat.. dats how strong n detached i am... or how insecure n weak i am.. hmm dats only 4 tym 2 tell..... but its funny cos smhw i cannot relate 2 any situations or ceremonies wich mk ppl go on extremes... i dnt like goin 2 cremenations.. n i dnt like attendin marriages eithr.. but at tyms v r complied 2do so... der is no comparison btween d emotions invld in d 2 ceremonies.. but neithr of dem mks me feel like bein der.. call me weird but dat hw it is 4me...antisocial mayb.. but wot can i do if such emotions dnt come natural 2me.. or mayb i'v conditiond myself wid tym..not 2 react much n b cold 2 all such evnts... tho smtyms it shakes me bad.... imagine v decide not 2 get in touch wid sm1 again in our live n less v knw , it jst mite b d case... how does it feels wen u hv argumnt wid sm1.. u develop  grudges 4 certain ppl n decide 2 stay away 4m dem 4 alwaz... but if it so hapns dat u get d news d der demise .... how do u feel.. its like d last confrontation wid dat person ws a fite.... now d person is gone 4 real n in dis life v arnt getin in touch again wid dem.. (xactly wot v decideed,, only not dis way),wot if v feel smwhr it ws our fault n shud hv got d records strait wid dat person.. or evn if it ws dat both d parties were at fault, wot gud is it doin 2 dcyd not 2 get in each odrs way in dis life tym ?? so v dcyd 2 set things asyd but b4 v knw.. its 2 late now.. n wot r v left wid,,, a guilt insyd cursing our ownselves ..d last words u had wid d person were smthin dat jst myt haunt u 4evr.... so jst 2 mk sure no such thing hapns..shud v b leting morons be demselves d bearing wid dem.. cos v dnt want 2 regrets later??? or do v doom dem 2 hell n keep dem asyd , live our lives peacefully???   den der r chances f u hatin a person n evry1 knws wot d jerk he/she ws in der lifetym but wen dey die.. well ,,,all go on sayin wot a wonderfull person he or she ws.... n how dey wud b missd.. but bringing forth d truth wud b rude n bad.. 4 not 2 tk bad of sm1 who is dead... isnt it so? but wen d person ws alive.. curse him/her like hell.. wot a wonderfull concept v ppl have... respect d dead n mock d living...

sm say d ultimate way f life is bein detachd n not feeling nethin.. but lyk i said v nvr knw wen n wot will get us attchd 2 it or dem.. lookin at d world arnd wot do v get 2 keep wid us... wot all can v possbly gain... in d same aspct... wot can v possbly loose....hmm heavy stuff isnt it ... n dnt v all like 2 talk n sound philosophical.. but hw many f us practice wot v preach?? i dbt not many.. 

dnt hv much 2 rite now... guess wud leave dis here only.. dis mite b 1f d short post 4d readers .. so wont get dem complaining...

17 comments:

monica said...

Reality check i would say!
Will elaborate further, to be continued...

monica said...

There's nothing to be ashamed of. This is where people and society as a whole go wrong.You calling yourself antisocial!WRONG. I would call that indifference or in a way 'emotional difference'. As i said, am gonna talk about related stuff in my post.

Speaking 'nice words' for a deceased one is the biggest irony that i have ever come across.Why bother later when you didn't put in any efforts to reconcile when XYZ was alive? Here law of certainty comes into picture. Death is certain, so say all the good things that you ever wanted to say NOW rather than wait for tomorrow. Who knows, you may or may not get an opportunity later.

Cold hearted? Sir, you are very wrong with your perceptions here. Ask me!

As you have mentioned, detachment is the most ideal way to live but we never really know to what all and to whom we are getting attached to. Being low level Mortals, it's tough to practice this.These attachments are the sole cause of agony as well as illusionist happiness. This world is an illusion!!

This one is another of those reality check posts sprinkled with Real time GYAN.

Roshmi Sinha said...

"Respect the dead and mock the living"... a very apt line, that is found in abundance in this world. Especially in South Asia... aka the region we inhabit.

But... remember:

"Nainam chindanti shastrani, nainam dahati pavakaha

Na chainam kledayantyapo na shoshayati marutaha."


P.S. Incase if you have an interest in politics/international relations... would be keen to hear your views on my latest post "For want of that elusive Nuclear Deal... (1)"

Also... do away with the 'word verification' thing in the 'comments section'

sobhit said...

@monica
arre i nvr said am ashmnd of anything lyk dat..dfntly lookin
4wrd 2 ur post n antisocial... well if society is goin 1 way n u try d othr its against it ..den ur doomd 2b calld antisocial.. glad 2knw i cud b wrong wid dat
cold heartd?? u said asm me .. ok am askin den :P :P..less mortals v r ...sure abt myself here.. dunno wots d reality chk in d post... commnt mein tho kafi gyaan mil gaya :P :P...

sobhit said...

@roshmi

"Nainam chindanti shastrani, nainam dahati pavakaha

Na chainam kledayantyapo na shoshayati marutaha."

plz translate... n no such intrst in politic n all ..will jst read d post generally smtym .... as 4 verification word will c ...

Roshmi Sinha said...

The shloka:

"Nainam chindanti shastrani, nainam dahati pavakaha

Na chainam kledayantyapo na shoshayati marutaha".


It is from the 'Bhagavad Gita'... and means:

I am the spirit/soul... atman... any weapon, elements of life or any danger cannot destroy me... I am eternal... energetic...

Lord Sri Krishna describes (to Arjuna) the human soul as something that cannot be cut by weapons, can’t be burnt by fire, can’t be drowned in water, can’t be dried by the wind...

Just as a man casts off his worn out/old clothes and puts on new ones, similarly... the embodied self casts off its worn out bodies and enters into others which are new.

Weapons cleave It not, fire burns It not, water wets It not, wind dries It not. This self cannot be cut, not burnt, nor get wet, nor dried up. It is eternal, all-prevading, stable, immovable and ancient.

This [self] is said to be unmanifested, unthinkable and unchangeable.

Therefore, knowing This to be such you should not grieve.


P.S. There is a parallel between this shloka and the "first law of thermodynamics" also known as the "Law of conservation of energy":

Energy can neither be created nor destroyed; It can be converted from one form to other; the total amount of energy in the universe remains the same.

Physics in the Bhagavad Gita or the Bhagavad Gita in physics... a point to ponder... what say... ???

Roshmi Sinha said...

My post is not a 'political post'. Rather it belongs to the genre of political satire.

Puneet said...

Death is something humans fear the most. Primarily because it belongs to the few subjects we know very little of. It's also natures way of one-upmanship over mankind which we'll never be able to change inspite of all the achievements our race makes.

U ventured into morose philosophical waters mate, Nicely done!

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"what is life, except excuse for death... n death is nothing but an escape from life"

This a very nice quote. It made me realize that we should live while we are alive and just let things be. Because what we have now is Life and we have to deal with it whether we like it or not.

aditi said...

The most impressive statements of the post .." ..the concept of attachment and detachment seems funny to me "...."somehow it seems to me that eventually its gonna happen" . The blatant confessions being made here have intrigued me to the heights i cannot express ( ok , sorry for the dramatization in writing but m just helplessly excited right now). To me this blog was not about life or death at all , it was just about the first of the 2 statements which eventually implies the second. But first things first , the initial few paragraphs are being unrealistically ( as opposed to the spirit of the blog and the owner) cynical on the oddities happening inevitably at a funeral or a cremation site like " Are you ok ?" , "How did it happen?" " oh thats sad". Arey yar , why can't we just see the forlorn downhearted attempt , which is all desperate , hopeless, useless , i agree but is just a reaction , a helpless reaction to the situation , a useless attempt to hopelessly ease the people affected. There are things we can't do anything about or couldn't have done anything about but that doesn't mean that we shouldn't get affected once they are gone or destroyed . ( now i know thats just too philosophical from your standards but is practical as well).
Now i come back to the gripping concept of attachment and detachment around which the post revolves . Very true , we human beings do get attached or detached as per our convenience. Attachment does wonders both good and bad and detachment follows. Thats like the Law of Nature itself. Whereas this blog is pleasantly proposing otherwise . It talks of being unaffected , plain buddhist philosophy it is ..be dead against everything thats mortal and you'll have an enviable life to live. All i can say is that it was a brave thing to advocate and you'v done it just the right way :).

Roshmi Sinha said...

Knock! Knock!

Hello! Hello! Anybody there... ???

Echoooooooooooooo

Puneet said...

OYE LIKH..!!!

swati said...

first of all, it was a nice read..dint feel like leaving it midway even once..

now coming to the post.. you think you are insensitive.. you are anything but that dude.. insensitive are the people who pretentiously say "sorry to hear that" without even knowing that thr's no need to be sorry on their part (as u said)..

You are actually so rght saying that saying good things abt ppl at their funeral doesn't make sense.. Its hypocrisy at its height..The best part is no one compels you to do it.. Then why not keep your mouth shut?..And when that person dint matter to u when living then atleast dont insult him by attending his funeral just for the heck of a social code of conduct that needs to be followed..y not let him be surrounded by people who actually wanna mourn his death..

another thing about this post that'll stay with me for long is when u say "but d only way i feel i can cope up wid losing my dear 1s is dat i die b4 dat.. " I always felt the same myself when it came to certain people.. The whole idea of losing them made me so vulnerable that i convinced myself that ideally i want to be the one to die first.. Then one day i ended up having a conversation with someone on these very lines.. That person said, "I dont want to die before my mother, because i think I love her so much that i wont want her to go thru something so painful.. I'll rather take that burden on myself.. But there's one person in life, who matters so much that i want neither of the 2 thngs to happen.. coz i wont be able to bear him/her go and neither can leave him/her alone to bear it.." And suddenly it struck me do i love someone to this extend?..I doubt it.. I was always too selfish to think its the best to die first.. maybe one day someone wud matter dat much..

Jaunty anima said...

That was a thoughtful post!!

We are so surrounded by hypocrites who want each one of us to behave exactly as they do..CODE OF CONDUCT, like u said..haha!!

Each one of us has a way to perceive things..now if doing it differently than others makes people to consider us insensitive then God give brains to the people!

It's perfectly ok..some may call you abnormal when u do that but then what would be this society without abnormals..!!

Cheer up man!!I'd advise against thinking about this stuff coz there a lot more things to cheer about in life...
So cheers:)

suruchi said...

Gawsh...u've got some serious comments up here...I tried reading through some of them...ut gave up...

Hey Sobhit...
Soooooooooo deep...I wasn’t expecting to read such a thing here...and I am so pleasantly surprised...:-)
U have an eye for deeper introspection...that’s how you make all those amazing comments on my blog even on posts which you didn’t find humorous...

And there’s nothing wrong with u for feeling nothing when u hear of bad news befalling on others...that’s how we all are...exceptions are those who raise an unnecessary hue n cry over something beyond our control...you yourself have defined how you feel about losing ur near n dear ones...I think the mere questioning of your emotions here betray how humane u actually are...who’d bother otherwise to boggle his mind with such questions...

Good read:-)
N thanks for reading my blogs n commenting so religiously...big happy hugs:-))))))

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